Posted by tyan (Singapore, Singapore) on 27 September 2007 in People & Portraits.
Its been hard coping with the guys lately but meals still have to be prepared. So i put Ian in his walker and was washing the vegetables when i felt a tug at my skirt. I turned back and saw him looking up at me doefully,as if pleading me to pick him up. See his tear-stained eyes,awwww. No wonder i have a bad back.
i really admire all mothers. Especially those who sacrifice so much to take care of their children. I admire you tyan
27 Sep 2007 12:03am
@Rags: thanks so much Rags,for your affirmation.I am very touched by your comment.:)
Such a darling. Are u prepared for the time when Ian starts to walk?
27 Sep 2007 12:53am
@Nancy: no babe.It is already so hard nowadays.Today caleb just snatched his bro's book and caused him to fall.I made Caleb apologise but he refused so i locked him outside the room,and he cried and vomited,and walked into the room and vomited somemore.and i put ian down to clean the floor and ian started bawling.Bad days. I dont know how i am gonna cope when they become more and more active and assertive.
hahahah - oh Tyan I know exactly how that is...as much as your heart breaks for them in that walker, you know they need to stay there just a bit longer so you can at least get the food prepared!!! It''s a lovely capture of yor little sweetie....he's really trying hard to get you to pick him up!! hahahah. Lovely use of the effects again, lovely texture it's created here. Makes the image evenmore doeful!!! :)
27 Sep 2007 2:51am
@Mandy: thanks so much Mandy...yeah,its the dilemma that really frustrates u sometimes...sometimes i just wish i have extra pair of hands!
Alamak.... he looks so poor thing. hopefully, the two boys learn how to play with each other soon and keep each other occupied. Do take care of your back...
27 Sep 2007 3:14am
@uncle heng: hi uncle heng,do i know u?
ahhhh,uncle heng,i think i know who u are already,after some revelation from Lawly.haha.Welcome back!Caleb misses you,asked 'Uncle,where?' last service. I just hope they learn to PLAY and keep each other occupied,not FIGHT and keep each other occupied.lol
It's a very familiar sight to mothers - my revenge is to stand next to my sons (6 foot one and six foot five and say "Pick me up...please!!!" I rather hope they keep ignoring me haha!
27 Sep 2007 3:22am
@Bron: haha,i think it'll be lovely if they DO pick you up Bron!
Awww! bless his little heart, kids certainly have a way of tugging at our heart strings. Adam used to do this, especially if I was talking to someone else, and not giving him all my attention, my MIL says that my hubby used to do the same to her! thinking about it, they both still do like my undivided attention LOL.
27 Sep 2007 4:06am
aww... those are the eyes that mommies can't resist. :-) Read abt Caleb snatching Ian's book etc.. I can imagine how stressful your day must have been. Hey have you watched/read Supernanny? I'm not so sure abt locking Caleb out since he's only 2... (of course when it comes to my turn I'll probably throw him down the window!" Try the naughty chair method? I tried it with my niece and nephew and it kinda worked... Take care ya?!
27 Sep 2007 5:08am
aww, who could resist...fabulous as always Tyan :)
27 Sep 2007 6:39am
Awww! Kids sure know how to get to you, especially when you're trying to get something done:) My 3 yr old daughter still does this!
27 Sep 2007 8:46am
Nice blur on the picture - remember those days well with my daughter, and if the ultrasound is right, looks like I'll soon be adding a boy to the family.
27 Sep 2007 9:02am
awwww cute
27 Sep 2007 12:09pm
Charming PoV - most of us have experienced this and it IS hard to resist... even tho our hands are full of what ever chor we are doing.
27 Sep 2007 12:46pm
Awwwww, he is sooooo endearing, babe!! He’s definitely got my heart with this one!! B-)
Thanks so much for your long comment on my blog today, dear babe. Have typed a reply, and will just include it here again for your ease of reading.
....Do let those ex-students/guys "go fly kite" if they're gonna give you this ridiculous kind of look, dear babe!! it's their experience/understanding which is lacking, not yours!! don't let them get you down, ok? seriously, it's not worth it! you're far more precious than that!! And as for the day with Caleb and Ian, my heart’s really going out to you, dear tyan!! Really sounds like one of those absolutely horrid days!! I can imagine you’re doing your best already, and what you really need is support and relief, so please forgive if this sounds like another list of “prescriptions”, but just hoping that one or more bits of this additional information can help. (If can’t, never mind, just ignore, and do what you know in your heart is best and right, ok, babe?)…..here goes… We’ve also been trying to practise a version of “time-out” with Elise, following the principles of “time-outs” recommended by ‘Supernanny’ Jo Frost & Dr Tanya Byron (of ‘House of tiny tearaways’) (feel free to google them to find out more about their recommendations – personally, we tend to lean more towards Tanya Byron’s recommendations, although the two do overlap in some ways) : “time-outs” should generally be for no more than a minute for every year of life – so eg. For a 2-year-old : no more than 2 minutes at a time, and usually only as a last resort. With Elise we generally don’t exceed a minute, usually 40 seconds or less, and shuttle her to and fro from “time-out” (the hallway next to our living room which has a door to close on it which she knows as the “dark dark place”) if she’s still being wilful. It has helped a lot as effective yet not hurtful or harmful discipline to teach her right from wrong, especially at this time of limited understanding when reasoning can only go so far…. seems to be one of the few things that’s worked with her, ‘cos any form of corporal punishment, even light smacks, is something she doesn’t take well at all, and there are only so many ‘privileges’ we can deprive her of in a day at this stage without harmful effects!
If Caleb starts to vomit even early on in “time-outs” (eg. even in the first minute), then may be necessary to find some other form of discipline that suits him better. The “naughty chair”, as rainsocks very rightly mentions in her comment, is something Jo Frost recommends for younger children, and can be within full view of you if that works better for Caleb. (Sadly for us, the “naughty chair” didn’t work with Elise as our wilful little one just thinks it’s funny and treats it like a game (!) but for her the “dark, dark place” version of “time-out” has been effective). Do try out various methods to find out what works for Caleb, ie. effective but not hurtful or harmful to him. As you know so well already, every child is different and has his/her different sensitivities and different things that don’t bother them, etc…..Feel free to try out various methods till you find one that actually suits Caleb. Best of wishes, God bless always and lots of hugs, dear friend!!
27 Sep 2007 2:02pm
hey tyan--Unclebilly catching up--I luv your family shots--they're so real worldy--great slice of life--Unclebilly
27 Sep 2007 5:53pm
Perhaps, u can consider putting Caleb at a playgroup or childcare for half a day for ur own sanity. :) You can also get to spend some quality time alone with Ian. It'll definitely getting better as they grow older! :D
28 Sep 2007 11:14pm
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