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What gives me SECURITY in life?

Posted by tyan (Singapore, Singapore) on 9 October 2007 in People & Portraits.

Another guest appearance by my hubby.
No,i DID NOT 'instigate' him to write this.
No,i did not tear in my eye so he will feel sorry for me and thus pen this down.
He requested it himself and did not allow me to read it till he completed it.

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Just had a most frustrating monologue discussion with my parents today on planning for our kids’ future. In summary their view is as follows: one, have a maid so you can cope, two, get Tyan to work soon in case she gets too rusty and can never go back, lastly, don’t even think of having another kid because you will not be able to give them a quality of life with your income alone.

Incidentally, we were on our way for my dad’s operation so he was saying there is no way a single income can support the hefty medical fees today. While still reeling from the astonishment that my parents still consider me a child to tell me on how many children I should have, I told myself not to argue. I have realized very long ago that our values are different. Thus, we can argue till the cows come home and still disagree. What is important to them is different from what is important to us. Period.

That is the main issue I want to talk about today. What gives us security in life? We can eat healthily, pop supplements, buy insurance, invest well and cover all the angles but there will be another ailment that needs another health food, another area that needs insurance coverage, another investment that will allow our kids to afford an education, a home, a car….oh my.

I am a planner. I know how much I earn and save, how much the kid’s education will be. But our security does not lie in how much money we have in the bank. It does not lie in having jobs. It does not lie in knowing we have enough retirement funds or money for medical emergencies. It lies in the promise of a faithful God to look after us.

Of course if I tell that to my parents, they will just brush it aside. Would you place your trust in cold hard cash that is shown in black and white on your bank book or the promise of a God whom you cannot see but have proven Himself faithful for thousands of years? It is easy to pay lip service to that of “In God we trust”, but to stake your major life decisions on it is another matter, It is far too easy to hedge your bets. Money to cover your present life, God to cover the next. God does not give us the option, it’s either him or money.

I would like to end with 4 main messages for five specific people. Message 1 to LYE when someone tells you it is risky to throw away your present well paying job to go to a far away land, remember you go in the hands of the Creator of Heavens and the Earth who knows when the sparrow needs food. Message 2 to SE, when your parents bug you now and again about why you studied in CB only to go tell chronological stories, remember just pray their values will change when they accept the Lord, no point arguing. Message 3 to UH, whom you trust in determines your values and beliefs and your decisions and life, pray think about sharing your life with someone who shares those beliefs. And lastly to my beloved wife, we will not be able to offer Caleb and Ian money for their education (one has to take an education loan, both have to take housing loans, see I know our money situation) but we will give them a true “quality of life”, the right foundations of who gives the ultimate security in life, the word of an absolutely Dependable Gentleman!
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