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Posted by tyan (Singapore, Singapore) on 22 March 2008 in Abstract & Conceptual.

These days,temper runs high in the house. I mean mine. I have never been into the 'screaming and shouting and beating' method with my boys but this week,i find myself raising my voice a lot.

Caleb for some reason is in the 'repetitive phase' recently--he keeps repeating a statement again and again even though i have answered him the first time he said it.For example,yesterday,he started chanting while we were out,

'Mummy,i want to go animal zoo.'

'No we can't,we have no car and the zoo is very far away.Mummy needs to work later'

'Mummy,i want to go animal zoo.'

'Mummy,i want to go animal zoo.'

'Mummy,i want to go animal zoo.'

'Mummy,i want to go animal zoo.'

He said it for at least another 20 minutes.

'Caleb,can you please stop repeating yourself,you only have to say it once and I HAVE ALREADY SAID NO!'

'Mummy,i want to go animal zoo.'

No,the distracting-him-with-other-things method didnt work.

Then Ian started wriggling in the sarong,threatening to cry if i did not put him down and let him walk.

'Mummy,i want to go animal zoo.'

Caleb is becoming more assertive and less compliant,and Ian never seemed to be compliant.And now that the 2nd one has learnt to walk,it has become more stressful than ever to cope.When i was teaching yesterday,Caleb started bawling,a bit cranky after his nap,'I want to watch Thomas Train'

Ian refused to abdicate his throne on my thighs.

'Mummy,thomas train'

'Can you see that mummy is teaching?'

'Mummy,thomas train'

And so i was entertaining a toddler who is pretending he is a gymnast and my thighs his trampoline,and a preschooler who is chanting incessantly for thomas train,barney and bob the builder.And a distracted student who is amused by us 3 clowns.

And so i have been suffering from frayed nerved and a totally fused temper this week.

I read from the papers yesterday that many parents nowadays are slapping their kids with a court summon nowadays as 'Beyond Parental Control' and relinquishing their parental responsibilities to the Juvenile Court.

A mother was featured yesterday for bringing her 7-year-old boy to the court as 'Beyond Parental Control(BPC)' because he had not listened to her and refused to attend school.

Some other minor reasons for parents to apply for BPC are their kids not doing their homework,talking back to them,and playing truant for just a day.

There seems to be an increasing number of parents who are quick to hand their parenting responsibilities to the law.It was reported that the relationship between the mother and her 7-year-old was one of 'shouting,screaming and nagging'.Even at the court,the mother shouted,'You see,you see,for not listening to me earlier..'

I shudder at the thought that i could become the next 'screaming,shouting and nagging mother' and my sons 'Beyond Parental Control' in future.

Love,patience,kindness,goodness.

Love,patience,kindness,goodness.

Love,patience,kindness,goodness.

Love,patience,kindness,goodness.

i think Caleb's repetitive bug stung me too.
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